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There are two ways to subject change from within. Focus and Attitude. These are the two powerful tools that ripple on to affect so many aspects of your life, such as career, grades, physical health, and relationship goals. This is a broad topic, but it is substantial in order to change the outcomes you bring yourself.

The main goal is to understand that you are what you speak. You are what you think.

When you maintain constant optimistic thoughts, your brain will strengthen that neural pathway. This fosters a positive mindset, which is developed through neuroplasticity, the brain’s ability to adapt and change.

What to Let Go

People think it is dumb to to believe in yourself? People think it is weird to be kind to others? So what? Stop caring what others think, and spend more time focusing on yourself. Focusing on your dreams, passions, mind, soul, and body.

Focus, focus, focus. Focus on your character, goals, values, intelligence, health, and self-love. Give attention to this before you give attention to what others may be thinking of you.

Learn from people’s criticism, but don’t accept people’s judgment. If you have people in your life who make you question whether they are critiquing or judging, ask yourself, “Can I do something with this information? What was the tone? Can it be fixed in 5 seconds?”

When recurring judgment or negativity is being addressed, it is sometimes best to remove the people promoting it. As the Dalai Lama once said, “Not everyone you lose is a loss.”

What to Fill Your Space With

Not only can you learn from criticism, but you can also find opportunities in challenges. Even something as simple as a time-consuming project. Reframe it not as a blockade, but an opportunity to learn.

Be proud that you took on the challenge and take pride in what knowledge you gained.

Taking the initiative to be grateful for the people you care for and the positive aspects will give you a “sense of abundance.” A helpful tool to use is a gratitude journal, which focuses only on the positive aspects of your daily life.

Practice kindness and giving to others and yourself. Not only will you attract the same kindness back from others, but you will also build your self-confidence, because you are not constantly putting yourself down.

Surround yourself with people and entertainment that uplift and motivate you, as you do the same to others.

Begin visualizing your goals and repeating positive affirmations. You have your desires because you are capable of doing them, and you must allow yourself to believe in yourself.

“I choose to see the good in every situation.”
“I am constantly improving and learning.”
“Growth is everywhere.”
“Care less, live more.”
“Don’t wait for others to see the beauty.”
“I am authentically me and feel free.”
“I am excited for new experiences”

All together, these variables help you step outside of your comfort zone. This allows you to grasp new opportunities because it enables growth and change.

“What you don’t change, you choose.”

– Lori Deschene

The Benefits

Shifting your thoughts to be more optimistic influences a better quality of life. This is linked to fewer chronic conditions, a stronger immune system, lower blood pressure, and less stress.

A mindset change also helps with:

Emotional resilience
Creativity, motivation
Coping
Focusing on the present
A well-balanced perspective

Many other things contribute to having a “happy and healthy life”, but it begins with the mindset. Your most positive thoughts get you to where you are, and to mold it into something abundant, you must start focusing on yourself and appreciating many things around you.